My resignation letter is created and sent. My HR exit interview is scheduled and I will be officially on my own by May 4th. Talk about a scary, yet exciting experience.
I am finally going out on my own and I hope it’s for good this time. I hope that I am able to withstand the lure of a “secure job” and some good money.
I was out on my own once already. I was on my own for a year when I had an opportunity.
My main source of income was a 40-hour a week contract, so essentially, I had guaranteed 40 hours a week of work every week and I loved it.
I loved every bit of it, I loved the freedom, the independence, being able to define my own schedule. But the company that I worked for at the time, which I’ve now put in my notice for, had offered me a full-time job.
I said I wasn’t going to do it but they offered me the job. The salary was well over twice what I was making before I went on contract, full-time remote, flexible schedule, all this stuff and I gave in and said okay.
I guess you can say I’ve been denying really who I am for a very long time. Look at the culture, you get a good paying job and you stay there. That’s kind of old-fashioned mentality.
I’ve never been one to be really loyal to a company, I’m very independent. I really think that you should take control of your own career, but I think that American culture is about you get a job and do your 9-5, go home, and you have a personal life. There’s always this belief of people want to separate their work from personal. They talk about work-life balance, why can’t it all be life?
In this digital day and age with everything being online, we don’t have to go into offices anymore. We don’t have to work with the physical product. I’m in software, all I need is a VPN connection and a laptop to make my living. Why should you have to separate work from life? I really didn’t have any predefined topic of this.
I have written a blog post about quitting my job and being an entrepreneur but I really feel that a lot of people are stuck in a position that I was in the golden handcuffs.
If you’re lucky enough to be stuck in the golden handcuffs position like I was it’s kind of a mixed blessing. At one point when I got the job, I was so excited. Doubled my salary, got excellent benefits, 100% remote, extremely flexible schedule, come and go as I please, do what I want as long as I get those 40 hours a week.
I was thinking this is the greatest thing ever but as I progressed there was always this feeling inside of me that there’s something not right. You’re not fulfilled.
I’ve had some kind of side business for over a decade now. I love all my side business stuff, I feel like nothing can stop me. You have all the control in the world and can come up with great ideas and try them out and see what happens.
You don’t have to get approval from anybody. You won’t have to go to meetings, do all the fluff that happens with a full-time job, I absolutely loved it. I’ve never met somebody that loves the office politics and loves meeting after meeting. As part of a full-time position, you have to have a different kind of mentality.
You have to put your blinders on sometimes and at some point, you get so frustrated with this, you get so fed up. A lot of people just deal with it for their entire life because they feel like there’s no other way.
My parents had a job and just dealt with it, they gripe and complain but they dealt with it. My grandparents, my great-grandma Sarah had a job, my friends all have a job. Logically, they probably know they could go out on their own but what about the “what ifs”.
You start thinking about this pressure from everyone else, the general culture of having a job. You have a job, deal with it. That’s part of life and that’s one thing that I stand against. I stand against people that don’t think outside the box. They don’t think outside of themselves. You can do something better with your life, you don’t have to adhere to everyone else’s mode of thinking. I know firsthand, it’s extremely easy to get stuck in that rut.
I know from experience, that the societal pressure of having that job and providing for your family, not taking risks, it’s not something that everybody wants. There’s a lot of people that would love to have their own business. Eventually, you get to a breaking point where you decide if your job is worth dealing with all the shit, not feeling fulfilled in life, not feeling like you’re accomplishing something. You have to realize that life’s too short to just get by and be idle. I know it sounds kind of Tony Robbinish, but I truly feel this way.
There are so many people that are just like me, that have a family and have this financial burden on top of them, but I think I made that choice years ago.
I was able to build up a financial buffer and plan this whole kind of process years ago. Quitting my $150,000/year job was not an overnight decision by any means. It was a process of years and years, and I don’t want to persuade everyone to quit their jobs right now.
My suggestion is If you truly want to do something on your own, you need to put a plan in place. This plan is six months to a year or more, it depends. Have a financial buffer in place, have enough money set aside to be able to support you and your family for six months, something like that.
Once you have that buffer you need to make strategic risks. Going on your own is always going to be a risk but you have to be strategic about it. You have to have that buffer, a plan, search for benefits, health insurance, dental insurance, all this sort of stuff.
Once you do that, you diversify as much as you can. If you’re focusing on business, one client or one source, and that dries up for some reason, you’re screwed. It’s not for everyone by any means, and if you are thinking about going out on your own, please let me know, I would be glad to help.
I’ve been thinking about this for years and years. If you’re thinking about going on your own, maybe you’re just considering another job, just considering a big life change, there’s a lot of things that you have to really take into consideration before you make the leap. I don’t want people to just change immediately because the watched my CarTalks video without having any plan. It’s dumb to make decisions on a whim like that. You have to be strategic about things.